{"id":1443,"date":"2023-03-02T16:18:40","date_gmt":"2023-03-02T16:18:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/?p=1443"},"modified":"2023-03-02T16:18:58","modified_gmt":"2023-03-02T16:18:58","slug":"9-essential-skills-that-make-you-resilient","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/?p=1443","title":{"rendered":"9 Essential Skills That Make You Resilient"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/wellness\/resilience\/\">Resilience<\/a> is our ability to withstand life\u2019s challenges and bounce back. It\u2019s a child with a disability not giving up when solving a puzzle. It\u2019s a nurse serving patients with a smile despite struggling with depression himself. It\u2019s a patient with advanced cancer choosing to find <a href=\"https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/gratitude\/\">gratitude<\/a> every single day. It\u2019s cleaning the house, paying the bills, doing the laundry, going to your job, and finding time to laugh with your family and friends even in the moments when you don\u2019t feel like it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Resilience isn\u2019t a fixed trait that you have or don\u2019t have; it\u2019s something you grow and work on. And there are certain skills that help you do so, explains Everyday Health Advisory Board member <a href=\"https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/wellness\/advisory-board\/amit-sood-md\/\">Amit Sood, MD<\/a>, the executive director of the&nbsp;Global Center for Resiliency and Well-Being and creator of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.resilientoption.com\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Resilient Option<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Working on these skills can help you cope with the myriad challenges of life: Resilience helps with creative problem-solving, reframing, connecting with others, seeking help, and bouncing back, Dr. Sood says. \u201cResilient people are more resourceful. They experience more uplifting emotions, are physically healthier, and have better relationships.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Below, Sood shares nine of those skills that make us resilient, and elaborates on how to develop each one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2014 Everyday Health Editors<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Composure<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/1-composure-helen-keller-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"1-Composure-Helen-Keller-1000x1000\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/1-composure-helen-keller-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"1-Composure-Helen-Keller-1000x1000\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gencho Petkov\/Stocksy<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>A surprise diagnosis, a stuck elevator, a flat tire, a lost wallet \u2014 life offers countless scenarios that throw our equilibrium off balance. These situations (particularly the disturbing ones) can shift our thinking patterns from rational ones to reactive ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>To be more resilient, stop, recognize the disruption, and take a minute to think about how you want to respond. Opt for solutions that represent your values and protect your interests. A few deep breaths can help too, by stemming the adrenaline surge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Patience<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/2-patience-benjamin-franklin-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"2-Patience-Benjamin-Franklin-1000x1000\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/2-patience-benjamin-franklin-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"2-Patience-Benjamin-Franklin-1000x1000\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">iStock<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience<\/strong>Listening is an art that tests our patience, especially when the other person shares something we don\u2019t want to hear or when we\u2019d rather be the one doing the talking. Patience is a marker of resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It<\/strong>Giving others our full attention when they\u2019re speaking, delaying judgment, and letting others complete their thoughts uninterrupted makes us better listeners \u2014 and therefore more resilient. Remember that listening to others helps them feel happier and worthy&nbsp;\u2014 your two ears are your most powerful organs of healing others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Optimism<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/3-optimism-courage-does-not-always-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"courage quote cat ears\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/3-optimism-courage-does-not-always-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"courage quote cat ears\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Melanie DeFazio\/Stocksy<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>Hope is the expectation of a better tomorrow. The hopeful are happier, healthier, and even live longer. While it\u2019s certainly easier for most of us to feel optimistic on days when the world is good to us, it\u2019s just as important to stay positive on the darker days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>To get better at seeing the bright spots in tough times (and stay resilient), remember happy moments, the people who support you, your strengths, your purpose, and what you believe in. Hope is partly innate, but to a great extent, is a matter of choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gratitude<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/4-gratitude-gk-chesterston-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"4-Gratitude-GK-Chesterston-1000x1000\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/4-gratitude-gk-chesterston-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"4-Gratitude-GK-Chesterston-1000x1000\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Getty Images<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>Gratitude is like pizza toppings. We don\u2019t need it, but its presence makes the experience a whole lot more enjoyable. An attitude of gratitude strengthens our relationships and overall well-being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>To get better at being grateful, you need to practice it in both the big and small moments \u2014 to savor your successes and find extraordinary within the ordinary. Be thankful for something simple, like a deep breath, a glass of water, a creative insight, a smile, a hug, or something that arrives on time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">5<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Acceptance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/5-acceptance-life-will-give-you-whatever-experience-is-most-helpful-alt-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"Experience quote redhead woman standing on mountain top\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/5-acceptance-life-will-give-you-whatever-experience-is-most-helpful-alt-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"Experience quote redhead woman standing on mountain top\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">iStock<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>Most of us love control, but so much of life is out of our control. You have a choice: Either get rattled by uncertainty or embrace the reality of uncertainty. (Hint: The latter will boost resilience.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>Embracing the uncertainty means engaging creatively with the unknown. Do it by being open and accepting of what comes your way. You\u2019re saying yes to life \u2015 to the good, but also to the unpleasant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttps:\/\/e0fec4bae2ce9cc2cbe9d6f51eecdeca.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-40\/html\/container.html\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">6<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Kindness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/6-kindness-henry-james-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"Kind quote butterfly hand\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/6-kindness-henry-james-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"Kind quote butterfly hand\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Doerthe Draeger\/Getty Images<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience <\/strong>We choose to be kind \u2014 and it takes considerable willpower to do so. Physical illness, fear, losses, insecurities, and most energy-depleting experiences decrease our capacity to act kindly toward others and ourselves. (Think of your temper when your back is aching or you\u2019re stressed at work.) Not treating one another with kindness, however, stands in the way of coping, healing, and problem-solving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>Commit to being kind to others and to yourself (even when it takes more effort). Remaining kind during difficult times might initially need a little extra effort, but eventually becomes effortless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">7<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Sense of Purpose<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/7-purpose-friedrich-nietzsche-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"binoculars quote\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/7-purpose-friedrich-nietzsche-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"binoculars quote\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Getty Images<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>Recognizing our purpose helps us focus our energy, keeps us engaged, makes it easier to be hopeful, fills us with courage, and \u2014 you guessed it \u2014 bolsters resilience. Purpose can come from a pursuit to help other people or to abide by a set of values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>To identify what gives your life purpose and meaning, think about it. Write it down. It might be one big thing. It might be a whole lot of little things. You\u2019ll know you\u2019ve landed on it if it makes you smile, fills you with courage, and prompts you to experience the day feeling inspired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">8<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Forgiveness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/8-forgivness-martin-luther-king-jr-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"forgiveness quote feather hand\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/8-forgivness-martin-luther-king-jr-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"forgiveness quote feather hand\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kelly Knox\/Stocksy<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>No matter how wonderful your friends, loved ones, and colleagues are, you will have misunderstandings and they will disappoint you. You have a choice: Fester the resulting hurt or find healing. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/emotional-health\/big-ways-forgiveness-is-good-for-your-health\/\">Forgiveness<\/a> decreases the load of your hurts, which frees up your brain to focus on the things that make your life meaningful and bring you joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>To be resilient, take back the power from the person who hurt you by letting go of the grudge, at least for today, and spend your energy toward actions that fulfill your life&#8217;s purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">9<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Connection<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/9-connection-loneliness-does-not-come-from-having-no-one-around-you-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"loneliness quote horses field\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.everydayhealth.com\/images\/resilience\/9-connection-loneliness-does-not-come-from-having-no-one-around-you-1000x1000.jpg?w=768\" alt=\"loneliness quote horses field\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">iStock<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why It Boosts Resilience&nbsp;<\/strong>Loneliness doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t have people around us or we don\u2019t have people to do things with. We can feel lonely in a party of a hundred people or feel deeply connected in the company of one or two good friends. Loneliness is a lack of true connection to others, and it\u2019s harmful to our minds and our bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Get Better at It&nbsp;<\/strong>Build resilience by cultivating strong relationships with at least a few people. They will help you nurture hope and courage \u2014 and they can boost physical health and longevity, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Original article: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/wellness\/resilience\/essential-skills-that-make-you-resilient\/\">https:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/wellness\/resilience\/essential-skills-that-make-you-resilient\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Resilience is our ability to withstand life\u2019s challenges and bounce back. It\u2019s a child with a disability not giving up when solving a puzzle. It\u2019s a nurse serving patients with a smile despite struggling with depression himself. It\u2019s a patient with advanced cancer choosing to find gratitude every single day. It\u2019s cleaning the house, paying the bills, doing the laundry, going to your job, and finding time to laugh with your family and friends even in the moments when you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-anti-aging"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1443"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1443\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1444,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1443\/revisions\/1444"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}