{"id":5064,"date":"2023-07-31T21:34:45","date_gmt":"2023-07-31T21:34:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/?p=5064"},"modified":"2023-07-31T21:37:26","modified_gmt":"2023-07-31T21:37:26","slug":"how-to-feel-more-confident-at-parties","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/?p=5064","title":{"rendered":"How To Feel More Confident At Parties"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20370%20247'%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" data-lazy-src=\"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"zeen-lazy-load-base zeen-lazy-load wp-image-5066\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5066\" srcset=\"https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214.png 1000w, https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214-300x180.png 300w, https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214-770x462.png 770w, https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214-293x176.png 293w, https:\/\/healthnews.zone\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/image-214-390x234.png 390w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\">Looking for advice on how to feel more confident at parties and other social events? We\u2019ve got expert tips from life coach Mhairi Todd<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Could you use some tips on how to feel more confident at parties? Most of us are used to feeling shy from time to time, especially around unfamiliar people. While for some, social anxiety can prevent you from wanting to go out to events, full stop. This of course can impact negatively on wellbeing and hold you back both at work and in your personal life. After all,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.naturalhealthwoman.com\/increase-your-social-biome\">connecting with others<\/a>\u00a0is good for us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To help ease our worries and feel less awkward in social situations, planning ahead is key. Whether it\u2019s a big work event or friend\u2019s wedding, with a bit of prep work you can go into the event more self-assured. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To help, we asked Mhairi Todd, life coach and founder of&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/gbr01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Frevolvecoaching.co.uk%2F&amp;data=05%7C01%7Claura.coppock%40artichokehq.com%7Cee50447ea16b4738670508db77176a84%7Cb963b680aa264664b56e2b3aa6a0e93a%7C0%7C0%7C638234714701792461%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=G32tfKPTv59wbsVaYUgID%2Blz6W7EvAE5o2dOt15VhrI%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Revolve Coaching<\/a>&nbsp;to give us a few pointers. Here are her tips to feel more confident at parties\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"know-you-are-enough-exactly-as-you-are\"><strong>Know you are enough, exactly as you are<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It may sound trite but one of the&nbsp;single biggest confidence killers is thinking you need to be someone else in order to be found interesting, charming or successful. So many of us completely undervalue ourselves; focusing on all the ways we feel we aren\u2019t good enough and discounting our natural&nbsp;gifts.&nbsp; Please know that you&nbsp;are much more compelling than you believe, and your authentic self is the spark that others will warm to.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With that said, there is no harm in taking steps to embody more confidence than you feel. One step before knowing you are enough, is knowing exactly who you are. Specifically recognising your own character strengths is incredibly powerful. Try a free character strength survey (such as&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/gbr01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.viacharacter.org%2Fcharacter-strengths&amp;data=05%7C01%7Claura.coppock%40artichokehq.com%7Cd6155a13becb4f44429308db724091ec%7Cb963b680aa264664b56e2b3aa6a0e93a%7C0%7C0%7C638229393887392087%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=BqMZD%2BJwMM%2Bwkpu0%2FI4Ml55fsDrByUExjgR8BXK7Wy4%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">via institute<\/a>) and see for yourself the things you take for granted about yourself are actually traits others covet.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"prepare-an-opener\"><strong>Prepare an opener<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of the daunting things about social gatherings is knowing how to start up conversation with strangers, especially when the vibe is a little awkward. Play to your strengths here. Are you funny? Have a quip ready. Are you a history buff? Have an interesting and relevant fact up your sleeve. Or&nbsp;keep it simple and&nbsp;have one stock question ready to ask, like: \u2018How did you come to know x and y?\u2019; \u2018Have you worked at the company long?\u2019; \u2018Did you see x in y publication today?\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pick something that suits your audience and hold it in your mind. You might not need it, but if you do&nbsp;draw a blank, you\u2019ve got an ace in your back pocket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"get-ready-for-the-inevitable-questions\"><strong>Get ready for the inevitable questions<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What\u2019s the one question you get asked or will ask of any stranger? \u2018So, what do you do for a living?\u2019. Every time, right?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The cynics amongst us might muse this is because we are a society of snobs who judge each other by profession. A kinder rational might be that many of us spend a huge proportion of time, effort and energy at work, so this is a natural area of life to enquire around.&nbsp; Perhaps the truth is somewhere in between. Regardless, instead of being caught on the hop, prepare responses that feel good for the inevitable questions. Which brings me on to my next tip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"know-your-triggers-and-how-to-navigate-them\"><strong>Know your triggers and how to navigate them<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe you are usually confidence personified, but as the CEO walks towards you, the power of speech leaves you. Perhaps you\u2019re fine as long as no one at the family gathering asks you about your love life\u2026 again. Take some time now to think of what depowers you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With this knowledge you can start to make changes. The long term and permanent solution may be to consider what support you need and deserve \u2013 this could be in the form of a coach or therapist, for example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Short term, however, you need simply find a way to navigate. Try any of the 3 D\u2019s: deflect, deter or delay.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Deflect is useful in polite, impersonal circles, deter can be powerful when you want to push back and ward someone strongly off a particular&nbsp;topic and delay is for more personal relationships when you have no desire to discuss the topic.&nbsp; These might sound something like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Deflect<\/em>: \u2018Never mind about my job, congrats on your promotion, tell me everything!\u2019&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Deter<\/em>:&nbsp;\u2018Ooft, straight for the juggler. I\u2019ll need a few martinis before we go there.\u2019&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Delay<\/em>: \u2018Thank you for asking. One to chat about later when we\u2019ve more time\/privacy\/I\u2019m in a better headspace.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"get-rid-of-i-m-just\"><strong>Get rid of \u2018I\u2019m just\u2019<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s all too easy to conflate humility with self-deprecation. Do you recognise yourself in any of these sentiments?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2018Oh, I\u2019m&nbsp;just&nbsp;a stay at home mum.\u2019&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2018I&nbsp;just&nbsp;dabble really.\u2019&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2018It\u2019s&nbsp;just&nbsp;launched so it may go horribly wrong.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These subtle slights erode confidence insidiously. So instead, practise asking yourself: \u2018If I was 100 percent confidant, how would I answer this question?\u2019.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For example, as an answer to: \u2018What do you do for a living?\u2019 say, \u2018I\u2019m a homemaker\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How\u2019s the side hustle going? \u2018You mean my business? Really great thank you.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s not hubris to respect yourself and your choices.\u00a0 So, if you\u2019ve recently taken up knitting and are having a life changing love affair with it, then share that with pride!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.naturalhealthwoman.com\/how-to-feel-more-confident-at-parties\"><em>Source<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Looking for advice on how to feel more confident at parties and other social events? We\u2019ve got expert tips from life coach Mhairi Todd Could you use some tips on how to feel more confident at parties? Most of us are used to feeling shy from time to time, especially around unfamiliar people. While for some, social anxiety can prevent you from wanting to go out to events, full stop. 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